Are You a Guy or a Man?

Are you a guy or a man? Let me ask a few “guy or man” questions…

• “Maximus” played by Russell Crowe in The Gladiator… guy or man?
• The dudes in the Coors Light commercials who ask the coach the post game questions…
• William Wallace, played by Mel Gibson in Braveheart… guy or man?
• The husband who loves his Alzheimer’s-stricken wife to the end…
• The married dude who sneaks out to drink shooters at Hooters… guy or man?

 The “guy” it seems, is all about shooters and Hooters and the swimsuit issue. But, what does a woman prefer? I’ve asked some women, and they’ve been very eager to give me answers, and I’ve come to the conclusion that a woman prefers a man—a hero who will sacrifice everything for her. She wants a man who is confident. She wants a man who will provide security for her. She wants a man who’s not wishy-washy. In fact, even though she just wants you to listen sometimes and not offer solutions—after she vents it all out, at the end of the day, she, in fact, does want a solution, and she wants you to provide it, or work with her toward it.  And men are solutions-based. It’s part of our calling. We want to “fix it” and we should fix it. How many Mr. Fix Its are in the classifieds? Plenty. How many Mrs Fix Its? None. That’s because men are geared to fix things.  And sure, she wants you to be sensitive; but she still wants you to be masculine. That doesn’t mean macho, it means masculine.  A woman wants chivalry. Which is to say, she wants all the qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward her. Gallantry? Yes,  it means: Unflinching in battle or action; valiant. Selflessly resolute. Stately; majestic. Courteously attentive, especially to her.  

So are you a guy or man?

Ladies, here’s one for you: Are you a chick or a woman?